Caring for End-Stage Dementia

Dementia is the loss of brain function that occurs with certain brain conditions. It affects memory and makes it harder for patients to think clearly and communicate. As dementia slowly worsens, patients become increasingly disabled. Over time, they lose their ability to care for themselves. If your loved one has now progressed to end-stage (advanced) dementia, it may help to know what to expect and plan for what lies ahead.

Understanding End-Stage Dementia

Symptoms are different for each patient. But, in general, dementia has three basic stages. Each stage can last a few months to years. End-stage dementia is the last, and often most stressful, stage for both patients and families. Once this point is reached, your loved one's brain function will have severely declined. This will affect how the rest of your loved one's body functions. With end-stage dementia, your loved one may no longer:

  • Recognize family members and friends.

  • Reason or have sound judgment.

  • Speak or understand language.

  • Have bowel and bladder control.

  • Eat or swallow properly.

  • Walk properly. He or she may need a wheelchair or be bed-bound.

  • Perform normal tasks of daily living. He or she will need constant care.

Revisiting Your Loved One's Care Plan

Because of the extent of the physical and mental changes that can occur with end-stage dementia, your loved one's goals of care and treatment plan may need to change. Your loved one's doctor and health care team can help guide you through this process. When meeting with the team, you and others involved in your loved one's care may want to ask:

  • How much longer does our loved one have to live?

  • How can symptoms be managed at this time?

  • What treatments might be helpful?

  • What are the risks and benefits of these treatments?

  • How will these treatments help with overall health and comfort?

These questions may lead to further discussions about end-of-life care. Although these discussions can be difficult, remember that the goal is to provide the best care and quality of life for your loved one. Think about conversations you may have shared about the kind of treatments your loved one wants at the end of life. Consider their personal values or faith. Also ask for advice from those who share those values.

Considering Care and Placement Options

With end-stage dementia, your loved one's caregiving needs will greatly increase. If you are still caring for your loved one at home, you may want to explore other care options at this time. These may include:

  • Private sitter services. A private sitter is a special type of caregiver. This person's main job is to monitor and keep the patient company. Sitter services are sometimes covered by long-term care insurance plans.

  • Placement in a nursing home or skilled nursing facility. This type of facility assists with tasks of daily living. It also provides constant medical care. Trained doctors, skilled nurses, and therapists are onsite to assist with care.

  • Hospice care. This is end-of-life care that can be done in a skilled nursing facility, hospice center, or at home. Hospice care focuses on ensuring comfort and enhancing quality of life in the time your loved one has left. It also provides physical, emotional, and spiritual support for both patients and families.

Deciding whether to move your loved one to a facility or to end-of-life care can be upsetting. But know that you're not alone in this process. Your loved one's health care team can help address your questions and concerns. You can also seek advice from a social worker, spiritual advisor, or attorney.

Getting Support

Coping with your loved one's condition can wear you down over time. Grief, anger, fear, and worry-these are all normal emotions. Rather than dealing with your emotions alone, it may help to reach out to others. Talking to other family members and friends may help. Joining a support group for families and caregivers of loved ones with dementia may also help. You can seek support from your loved one's health care team as well. You can also contact your county health department to find other resources within your community.

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